You Can’t Sit With Us by Nancy Rue

CantSitWithUsThis is the second novel in a fascinating trilogy that deals with the same events but from different perspectives.

You Can’t Sit With Us: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Victim
Mean Girl Makeover
By Nancy Rue
Thomas Nelson
December 2014

Book 1 of the series, So Not Ok, dealt with the bullying of Ginger from the perspective of Tori, a bystander. This book is from the perspective of Ginger, the bullied girl. The final book will be from the perspective of the bully, Kylie – [SPOILER] and progresses the story to what happens after she is caught [SPOILER]. Here are the descriptions of the first two books:

So Not Okay tells the story of Tori Taylor, a quiet sixth grader at Gold Country Middle School in Grass Valley, California. Tori knows to stay out of the way of Kylie, the queen bee of GCMS. When an awkward new student named Ginger becomes Kylie’s new target, Tori whispers a prayer of thanks that it’s not her. But as Kylie’s bullying of Ginger continues to build, Tori feels guilty and tries to be kind to Ginger. Pretty soon, the bullying line of fire directed toward Ginger starts deflecting onto Tori, who must decide if she and her friends can befriend Ginger and withstand Kylie’s taunts, or do nothing and resume their status quo. Tori’s decision dramatically changes her trajectory for the rest of the school year.

You Can’t Sit With Us tells the story of Ginger Hollingberry, a new sixth grader at Gold Country Middle School. Ginger has been the brunt of teasing and taunting from the queen bee of GCMS, Kylie Steppe, and her so-called Wolf Pack. Kylie and the Pack favor a new and especially hurtful medium of taunting: social networking. What follows is a candid look into the growing world of cruel cyberbullying, showing kids that bullying doesn’t always end at school—it can now follow you even into your home and torture 24 hours a day.

The focus, of course, is to teach empathy and encourage young readers to attack bullying – not the bully. An important distinctive.

Here’s what my tween daughter said of the book: In the book “You Cant Sit With Us” I realized that bullying is a serious thing and that even though at times some people take it as a joke it can become very serious. I also learned that to a bully, bullying is just a joke to them but to the victim it hurts deeply. This book helped me see what bullying is really like. It gave me a new vision of real life problems that needed solving. I can now understand what its like to be seriously bullied or hurt because of this book. I really enjoyed this book because of the way the characters solved the problem and how it was all sorted out. I saw that even though your problem is big and scary you can still fix it no matter how hard it looks because nothing is impossible.

This is a “Christian” book and there are some references to spirituality and to the Bible. However, it is done in a very natural way that connects the dots between God, his will for us, and our situations. This is an intriguing trilogy that young readers will learn a lot from, parents will rejoice in their children reading, and will teach empathy in a world that sorely needs a lesson in it.

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This book was provided by the publisher as a review copy.